This is episode zero. We have to talk about WHY to love better before we talk about HOW to. Think of this episode as a teaser for what is to come.
We'll talk about Tina Turner, the paradox of love, and the reason you can't live without it, but often hate that you need it.
Love is complicated, but so is life.
God makes it easier.
"Remember, you are loved, so go, love better!"
New episodes drop on Tuesdays.
This is episode zero. We have to talk about WHY to love better before we talk about HOW to. Think of this episode as a teaser for what is to come.
We'll talk about Tina Turner, the paradox of love, and the reason you can't live without it, but often hate that you need it.
Love is complicated, but so is life.
God makes it easier.
"Remember, you are loved, so go, love better!"
New episodes drop on Tuesdays.
Ep 0 Love Better
[00:00:00] Scott Beyer: In 1984, Tina Turner released a song that would eventually be considered her greatest grossing single. It would sell one and a half million copies. It would eventually earn her three Grammys and be considered by Rolling Stone Magazine, one of the top 500. Of all time. What's the name of the song? What's Love Got to Do with it?
[00:00:31] Scott Beyer: You're hearing the tune in your head right now, aren't you? Turns out Tina Turner gave up on Love and then she sang about it and we paid her because we as a society agreed. Love is way too hard. Listen to the lines of the Cho. What's love got to do with it? What's love but a secondhand emotion? What's love got to do with it?
[00:00:55] Scott Beyer: Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken? [00:01:00] Those are the words of somebody who's become jaded against love, and we agreed with her. Why? My name is Scott Beyer and this, this is the Love Better Podcast. I want you to consider this episode zero. In the episodes ahead, we'll talk about all different aspects of love, but right now I just wanna talk about why we need to talk about love.
[00:01:25] Scott Beyer: We're gonna take Tina Turner up on her challenge. What does love have to do with it? Is it really a secondhand. emotion? Is the heart something that we should just disregard and get rid of live life without it? I don't think so, and I don't think you do either. The fact of the matter is love is hard, but it's also essential.
[00:01:46] Scott Beyer: Every meaningful relationship in your life will revolve around love, your romantic relationships, your relationships with your children, your parents, your friends, and most importantly, your relationship with God. All require [00:02:00] love in order to work. But love is also really difficult to get better at because in order to do it, you have to really understand what it is in the first place.
[00:02:09] Scott Beyer: And I'm convinced most of us have no idea what love really is. We say we do, but even the definitions we use contradict each other. Sometimes we say love is this feeling that we get that leads us to do things. Other times we said, no, no, no, no. That's not it. Love is an action. You may not feel at all like doing the loving thing.
[00:02:30] Scott Beyer: The person might have upset you or irritated you, but you choose to do what is their best interest, even though you don't feel the emotion. The lack of emotion is precisely why it is a loving act. Well, which one is it? Is love and emotion, or is love and. We gotta get to the bottom of that if we're gonna know what we're talking about.
[00:02:51] Scott Beyer: Love is also a double-edged sword. Every funeral you ever go to, you're going to see people choked up with emotion. You [00:03:00] know why love, love leads to grief and mourning and sorrow and vulnerability. If you don't love, you don't hurt. This is the paradoxical problem of love. We've been created by God to love, but we also hate the difficulties that come with it.
[00:03:18] Scott Beyer: Every person you have ever loved has hurt you. All of the great lows of life and all the great highs of life are associated with love. We gotta talk about that part. . Now let's get back to Tina Turner. She's not the only singer to talk about love. In fact, there's a reason that there's been more songs sung about love than any other subject on the planet.
[00:03:42] Scott Beyer: We are infatuated with love, even if we seem to have a love-hate relationship with it. Why is that? We're gonna have to talk about that too. We need love. What's the very first thing that God ever said was not. He said it was not good for man to be alone. [00:04:00] That's in Genesis chapter two. Or what about the Apostle John?
[00:04:04] Scott Beyer: He says that God is love, and if you wanna understand God, you need to abide in love so you can abide in him. Love is essential for us understanding who he is or more accurately. In order to understand love, we need to understand God. So it's not just a romantic thing, it's not just a social thing. Love is a spiritual.
[00:04:26] Scott Beyer: And we're gonna need to talk about God's love in order to understand all love. On top of that, the central theme of the Bible is God loving us. John three 16 says, for God so love the world that he gave his only begotten son. That is a statement about what love looks like. We have to talk about love as an action because God's love is seen in action.
[00:04:48] Scott Beyer: What if you could get better at love instead of thinking of it as a talent or something you just feel or don't. What if instead we thought of love as a skill, something we could [00:05:00] hone, sharpen, improve on love better. That's the idea. It isn't just an inside change, but it's an outside change too. So here's the roadmap for our journey.
[00:05:11] Scott Beyer: Week by week we're going to look at this subject from a biblical worldview. We're gonna let God define love. We're gonna look at people of the Bible who loved, or people of the Bible, who failed the love. And then we're gonna try and connect those things to real world examples, history and sometimes even pop culture, so we can apply these ideas to our own lives.
[00:05:33] Scott Beyer: Last questions look for answers and bit by bit. Hopefully we start to get better at loving others, loving God, and. Loving ourselves. God has designed us to love him and to love others. Those are the first and second greatest commandments. Love the Lord your God and love your neighbor as yourself. These are commands folks.
[00:05:56] Scott Beyer: It's not just something he likes, it's something he [00:06:00] expects. So until we get to episode one, I want you to remember you are loved and so go love better.